If you’ve worked with me, you’ve probably heard me say this 100 times, and I wouldn’t do so if I didn’t believe that we ALL need to hear it again and again and again.

Each day, no matter how much planning and preparing you do, life will throw you a curve ball or a wrench because that’s just the way it works.

And the more we try to cling to our plan, the harder we get knocked off course.

Now, this is not to say that we don’t need structure and planning in our day; not in the least. The problem is the loss of control and panic we feel when our plan doesn’t go the way we think it should, and the self-sabotaging behaviors and shameful thoughts that often accompany this.

It’s the unplanned donut in the break room that we couldn’t resist or the last minute schedule change with our kiddos that causes us to have to skip our workout, ending the day with us feeling like a failure and beating ourselves up.

Every day I hear things like,

“I forgot my lunch at home so I ended up overeating fast food and because I had screwed up.”

“I didn’t have time to get to the gym so I ended up just saying, screw it, and snacking all night because I felt so guilty.”

Hear me out- if you forget your salad and apple at home (which, by the way, I know you don’t want to eat), it’s ok! You didn’t fail and you can still make a decision that supports the way you want to feel.

If you can’t make it to the gym, no big deal. If you want to move, bundle up and take a walk around the block, do a couple sets of lunges, maybe a 10 minute You Tube workout video, or some yoga.

And then high five yourself.

Life is about riding the waves; and they’re going to come every day. Have a plan that feels good and supports what you want for yourself, but one that’s flexible and can accommodate the last minute changes, unexpected events, and the imperfection of life.